Break up survival Kit.. (F.Y.I)

break-up survival kit
December 28, 2008 by Yang

Break-up Survival Guide

Unfortunately, sometimes relationships end. When they do, the breakup
can cause much pain to either or both partners for a significant length
of time. If you are someone who has recently ended a relationship or if
you know someone who has, this week’s newsletter will help you or them
deal with the pain of a breakup.

The following is a list of suggestions for people ending a long-term relationship:

Remember that you…

* will feel pain

* have survived this type of pain before and will this time as well

* will feel lonely

* have survived feeling lonely before and will again

* are ok and lovable

Accept that…

* the relationship is over

* your ex partner has both good and bad qualities; do not idealize or
discount him/her

Focus on your…

* self

* personal growth

* self care

Complete with your…

* self

* your ex

Own…

* the magnificence of who you are

* your part in the relationship break up

Give yourself time to…

* grieve

* be alone

* recover

Make sure that you…

* get touch, from friends or a body therapist

* have someone to come home to sometimes, such a relative or a friend

Reinvent your…

* community

* self

* future

* dreams

The following is a list of suggestions for people ending a short-term relationship:

Realize that…

* the pain you feel is not about your ex partner, but about your past

* if you start healing your past the pain will subside

* holding on to anger at an ex partner will keep you attached and in pain

Complete with…

* your ex partner

* all of your ex partners

* your parents

Give yourself the…

* room to grieve

* room to grow

Build for yourself a…

* community

* self esteem

* a life that you love

Whether you are ending a long term or a short term relationship…

* don’t look for a new relationship until you are done grieving

* trust that when ready you will attract the right partner

* welcome the pain as an opportunity to evolve

It’s through self evolution that you will be able to create a great relationship you dream of.


excerpt from mykel don blog..



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